Is the father of your baby threatening you?
- “You won’t get a penny of child support out of me.”
- “I dare you to have this baby and see what happens.”
- “If you don’t have an abortion, I’ll leave you.”
Are your parents threatening you?
- “If you keep this baby, you can pack your stuff.”
- “I won’t pay a dime more for your education if you don’t have an abortion.”
- “Either you get an abortion or you don’t ever leave the house so no one finds out.”
Are your partner or parents using emotionally or verbally abusive language?
- “You are worthless and don’t deserve a child.”
- “You are no longer my daughter if you have this child.”
- “You can’t handle it. Get an abortion if you know what’s good for you.”
Did a parent make an abortion appointment and is forcing you to go?
- “No more talking, I’m taking you for an abortion. I already made the appointment.”
- “You are my daughter and you’ll do what I say. You’re having an abortion.”
Are you scared for yourself and your baby’s safety?
- “I will beat you within an inch of your life.”
- “You are not keeping this baby; I don’t care what you think.”
- “If you have this baby, I’ll physically hurt you.”
As a mother, you have the fundamental right to direct the upbringing and education of your child (See Pierce v. Society of Sisters, 268 U.S. 510 (1925)). That right is yours – not anyone else’s. You have the right to make decisions about the child in your womb. As a woman, even a minor, this decision is yours. Though the Dobbs v. Mississippi Case reversed Roe v. Wade and returned the decision to the states it is still unlawful to force a girl or woman to have an abortion in every state, whether abortion is legal or illegal in that state. No person may force, coerce, or pressure you into having an abortion. An abortion that is forced or coerced can generate penalties and/or criminal prosecution for persons involved.
Fetal homicide laws prohibit any third party (including relatives) from murdering a baby in the womb when the mother of that child wants the baby to live. Any third party (including a relative) who causes the baby to be killed against the will of his/her mother may be guilty of fetal homicide and courts have upheld these laws. (See Lawrence v. State, 240 S.W.3d 912, (Tex Crim. App. 2007).
A person may also be prosecuted under the Federal Unborn Victims of Violence Act. A government official (i.e. police officer, teacher, school counselor, social worker) who coerces “a minor to abort a child violates the minor’s constitutionally protected freedom to choose whether to abort or bear her child.” Arnold v. Bd. of Ed. of Escambia County, Alabama, 880 F. 2d 305 (11th. Cir. 1989).
YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
We Stand With You and are here to help you navigate this situation.
Dear Student Letter
Are you or someone you know facing an unplanned pregnancy? This letter informs a minor or a woman of her legal rights as a new mother. This includes different examples of abortion coercion by a parent, father of the child, teacher or coach and links to resources for her and her new baby. The most important thing for her to know is that she is not alone and there is hope! Click here for the letter.
Dear Parent Letter
This letter is a resource for a young woman who experiences strong reactions from her parents after informing them she is pregnant. Although her parents may be initially shocked or angry, it reminds them there are positive outcomes that will arise from this situation. This letter also explains that it is unlawful for parents or legal guardians to force their daughters into having an abortion. It must be the minor’s decision and hers alone. Click here for the letter.
Dear Father of the Child
Telling a young father about an unexpected pregnancy may be scary. This letter gives examples of different pressures a girl or woman may feel from the father of the baby. Click here for the letter.
We also have letters for social workers, counselors, medical professionals, and the police who may be unaware of the laws and may be pressuring a girl or woman into an unwanted abortion HERE.